Weekly Sermon
THIRTEENTH SUNDAY AFTER PENTECOST
PROPER 18C2
FR. JERRY TJHOMPSON
ST. JAMES’ CHURCH, FREMONT, NE
We might find the beginning of this morning’s gospel reading distressing. I’m referring to Jesus’ words, “Whoever comes to me and does not hate father and mother, “wife and children, “brothers and sisters, “yes, and even life itself, “cannot be my disciple.”
The word “disciple” refers to being a student, a follower, of Jesus – someone who desires to learn from him and grow in faithfulness under his guidance. “Whoever comes to me and does not hate his family members “cannot be my disciple.”
Jesus’ words here are clear and unambiguous. They are also consistent with his message throughout the gospels. If you want to follow me, Jesus says throughout the gospels, You must put me and my way first in your life – above everyone else and above everything else.
If you want to know the salvation ourFather offers the world through me, this is the choice you must make. And Jesus shows us what that means by the life he leads,
including the death he enters into out of obedience to the way of our Father.
It’s a radical message in most cultures. It was a radical thing to say in his culture, and it’s a radical thing to say in our own.
Jesus’ words conflict with those deep ties that we naturally feel with those whom we love. as family members And Jesus’ message conflicts with the message our culture puts forth about where we find deepest meaning, where we find wholeness, where we find salvation.
One manifestation of that conflict is in the popular notion that family comes first in our lives.
It’s not a bad message, this focus on family, and that’s exactly why it’s so seductive and such a temptation in our lives of faith. Jesus himself shows great love for his mother, Mary, throughout the gospels, including as he hangs on the cross and entrusts his mother to his disciple, his student and his follower, John.
Joseph has died by Jesus’ adulthood, but at the beginning of Jesus’ earthly life, Jesus and Mary are protected by Joseph, as the Holy Family flees to Egypt in order to escape the murderous thugs of Herod. Part of the protection Joseph provides arises out of his obedience to God as he follows the instructions he has received in a dream. But surely part of it also arises out of love, love and affection for Mary, and love for this newborn child entrusted to him.
And with others in the gospels, we also see family relationships held up and cherished
and preserved by Jesus himself. Think of the father who comes to Jesus begging for his daughter as she dies. Jesus cures her. Or think of Jesus healing Peter’s mother-in-law when she is deathly ill with a high fever. Or think of Jesus returning Lazarus to life – and, just as importantly, returning Lazarus to his sisters, Martha and Mary.
Family relationships in the gospels – and throughout the scriptural tradition that precedes the gospels – family relationships are valued and cherished by the Lord God.
Honoring our parents is, after all, one of the ten commandments.
But family relationships are not valued and cherished above our relationship with our heavenly Father. That’s the critical distinction, and that’s where our culture has gone seriously awry.
We’ve too often replaced our relationship with the living God with our relationships with family members. We too often choose family in place of choosing God; we no longer put God first. We’ve replaced God with our parents and our children and our grandchildren;
they are more important to us than Jesus is.
We show that in the choices we make, in the way we spend our time and our money and our other resources. If you’re like me, you’ll put just about anything aside to spend time with your grandchildren. Just this week, my daughter asked if I could watch my granddaughter while she went to a doctor’s appointment. I said “of course!” I had to change a doctor’s appointment of my own in order to do so, but I was more than happy to do that! No problem!
Likewise, if I have the opportunity to spend time with Lena, my granddaughter, I’ll arrange planned prayer time around it. Only rarely would I skip the prayer time, but I will rearrange it – because I know experientially that life is better, life is richer, when I spend time both with Jesus in prayer and time with my granddaughter - life is more faithful with both as deliberate, chosen parts of life.
I also know experientially that all of life is better, all of life is at its richest, when I deliberately nurture a full, vital, living relationship with our risen Lord, Jesus Christ. My relationships with my family members are better, more faithful to God. My relationships with my church family members are richer and more faithful to God. My relationships with all the people I encounter in my life are better, more authentic and more faithful,
when my relationship with Jesus is authentic and faithful and deep and rich – when it is a reality not just of my lips but of my heart.
That’s where true life begins, and that is where true life ends. With Jesus.
As Jesus makes abundantly clear in the gospels, life does not begin nor does it end
with my granddaughter Lena, or with daughter Elizabeth, or with my mother.
It begins and it ends with the living Lord who has given me all the other relationships in my life, the ones that have turned out well, and the ones that have turned out less well.
All those relationships are gifts from the Lord, gifts from him granted with hopes about what they can be if all of us are faithful to him.
That’s true for us all, and for all of humanity.
As Jesus also makes abundantly clear, here in this reading this morning and throughout the gospels, there is also a cost to being faithful to him. Putting him first in our lives comes with immense rewards; being faithful to him also comes with immense demands and sacrifices.
In our gospel reading, Jesus asks, “Which of you, intending to build a tower, “does not first estimate the cost “to make sure that you have enough to complete it?”
Are we willing to sacrifice what we must to follow Jesus? Are we willing to put aside the time to nurture our relationship with him? Not just with an hour a week in corporate worship, which is the tip of the iceberg. but through daily interaction with him, even multiple times a day, so that we begin to know and love him as well as he knows and lovesus?
Does our heart belong to Jesus? Or does it belong to someone else or to something else.
And that cross by which we grow close to him – the cross he says we must carry in order to follow him, truly follow him, in order truly to be his disciple – are we willing to pick it up and to carry it?
Are we willing then to hang upon it out of love for the world? Not out of love for what we get out of it but for love of what our neighbors get out of it? Those neighbors – everyone – whom Jesus commands us to love?
Are we willing to hang upon that cross everything else – all those other relationships by which we define our lives but which the Lord says must come second to him? Are we willing to let them go and entrust them to our Father, just as Jesus does on his cross?
We are asked to do no less than that if we want to follow Jesus and to know the salvation our Father offers the world – offers us – through Jesus. Count the costs, he tells us. Because the costs are real. And so are the costs of not following him. For us, and for the world.
That choice is always before us and it always has been before faithful people of God, as our first reading from Deuteronomy indicates.
This reading comes at the end of Deuteronomy, as the Hebrews are about to enter the land promised to them by God. Moses tells them the words the Lord has given him to say: “I set before you life and death . . . “Choose life . . . “loving the Lord your God,
“obeying him, [“walking in his ways,] “and holding fast to him . . .” – not to anyone or anything else - “For doing so means life to you.”
Not just life in some future after you die. It means life right now. Life right here. True life.
Eternal life. Life participating in the kingdom of God. The life God wants for you as a beloved creature; the life God longs for you to have.
Always put God first. Choose life.
And trust that the life God wants for you is worth way more than any cost you can possibly be asked to pay.
Amen.